Regret. This is such a heavy feeling, and carrying it with you throughout your life can be detrimental. You don’t have to, you can free yourself from this feeling. In this article I am going to give you the one tool you need to help you get over your regrets.
1. Change Your Perception
It is impossible to live a life in which you do not mess up. In which you do not hurt someone. In which you find yourself in the kind of situation where you end up making the wrong decision. Impossible.
Your failures are not you, so don’t identify with what you’ve done wrong. The moment you allow your successes or failures to dictate how you feel, the less power you will have over your mind and yourself.
No mistake is ever wasted if you learn from it. That is the whole point of making mistakes, it is a necessary experience that you need to go through in order to learn and evolve. You have to feel the pain in order to grow, there is no getting around it.
Even if you make the same mistake several times, it is still not something to be perceived negatively if you learned something from it that made you a better person.
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Learn to view failure this way, once you truly do, you will no longer be afraid of it and it will no longer plague you.
Your mistakes are a part of your story, they are what give your life color and zest. They are proof that you had the courage to perhaps take a risk, that there is some part of you that does want to grow, and is still searching, but didn’t quite find what it was looking for.
Your mistakes are simply a reflection of the fact that you are a human being, so don’t be so hard on yourself. It is o.k. to screw up, and you don’t have to suffer years afterwards because of it.
You only suffer if you allow yourself to, you can control your state of mind. You are in control of that, not the world. So change your perception of your past mistakes and re-frame your failures so you can move forward.
“Anyone who is never made a mistake has never tried anything new”
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